There are those Vision Board proponents who respond to my comments about a Law of Attraction as if I had taken the life of a loved one. Yes, similar to a religious belief, faith in a law of attraction is emotional, subjective, and without objective evidence.
I have proposed creating what I call an Action Board — an evidence-based goal-setting tool that is founded on several principals of Positive and Social Psychology. I have described some of the advantages of Action Boards over Vision Boards, not from an emotional standpoint, from a social scientific perspective. The theory behind Action Boards makes them more motivating, present-minded, satisfying, likely to help you succeed, and less likely to involve blaming. The real secret to achieve success is in integrating these several Key Principles and using them in harmony with each other.
Here are a few more secrets: In contrast to a Vision Board that is based on a law of Attraction, The Action Board is based on eight Key Principles that are briefly described below:. Please contact me for coaching to kick start your way to Achieve. I always cringe when I read success articles like these precisely because I'm afraid to read about the Law of Attraction and other such mumbo jumbo. As such, this article was a welcome relief and I see in the author a kindred spirit who rightfully calls out that mentality as being potentially damaging.
I can't count the number of people I know with a cognitive dissonance that's almost painful to watch because they're frantically clinging on to this notion of wishful thinking being the coin they need to put in the slot machine in order for the Universe to dispense the payoff they're looking for. There are 3 instances in my life when I wrote something down in a little makeshift diary - unaware that I was doing anything other than angrily and when I say 'angrily', I mean 'blind rage' venting - and yet every detail I'd written down, occurred.
The first occurred just one week after a 'venting session' - the only 'action' I'd taken was to make a phone call , the second took 6 weeks again, the only 'action' taken was a single phone call - and the third one I barely remember now as I lost the diary in travels over the years it was only a very minor situation - nothing eye-popping - back in the early 90's. It wasn't until a few years after those incidents that my husband and I were talking about them one day when he asked me to dig up my diary - we were both astonished, when we read over those old entries, to discover that what I'd written occurred in every detail - and we set about trying to find an explanation as to why this was just before home computers came onto the market.
We never found one, of course, but in those 3 instances, I can tell you that I was passionately angry while scribbling furiously in my diary about outcomes that absolutely MUST occur to change situations for the better.
If the new age's 'LoA' is to be believed, what I'd written shouldn't have manifested, because my energies were passionately negative angry and I was fiercely determined to brook no opposition from anyone or any thing. I mean, I was practically breathing fire into my poor old diary. I certainly wasn't feeling any sense of 'gratitude' at those times, either - another 'must' the LoA preachers pound from their pulpits.
There was no, 'Oh, but I'm so grateful for all the crap in my life right now', twaddle. If anything, I'd done the exact opposite of everything LoA pushers, push. I'm still no closer to knowing how what happened, actually happened, but your articles are a welcome relief from the usual mumbo jumbo being peddled in the name of the Almighty Dollar I have nothing against money, just the worshipping of it to the detriment of humanity.
This article at first i did not want to read it but I'm glad i did because it changed my way of thinking from Vision to Action and explained why a lot of my visions have been delayed. I can have a vision about what i want but if i don't put an action behind it then its just dreaming and when it doesn't come true then i wonder what happened. Action is required in everything we do if you are hungry you can sit and dream about food but until you get up and go eat you will still just be dreaming about food and still hungry.
I'm excited about taking my visions and adding action to them and i plan on reviewing this article once a week to make sure I'm staying on track. He is a retired physician, life coach, hypnotherapist, researcher and the author of Throw Away Your Vision Board.
Neuroscience research explains how reproductive hormones protect the brain. Back Find a Therapist. What Is the Best Way to Propose? This is the person who will reach their goal. Will Smith, critically acclaimed actor and producer, was once asked about his motivation and how he got to become to successful. Success is all about consistency. Most people rely on short, intense bursts of inspiration and motivation in their attempts to be successful. Maybe they read an inspiring weight-loss story, or just watched Gladiator. They go to the gym 6 days in a row for two weeks, they write 5, words for their book, they throw out every piece of junk food they have in their house.
But what usually happens to these people?
Choosing to learn instead of being entertained is a trademark characteristic of successful people. Mastering success means learning to love being a small fish in a big pond. But achieving your ultimate life requires a tremendous deal of learning. It requires an intense dedication to gaining knowledge, learning important lessons, and receiving teachings that add to your wisdom, experience, and education.
Some of the greatest and most successful minds of our time are also voracious readers. They make time for their education. The extraordinary people of this world dedicate massive amounts of time and money into investing in themselves.
Successful people choose education over entertainment. The purpose is to find something you love that also adds value to the world. If you want to find that purpose, and actually start creating and doing work that impacts the loves of thousands…. If you want to be extraordinary and successful, choose education and learning over entertainment.
I have a friend who is writing a novel. His second and third books will probably be better. The first one sold exactly zero copies.
The second one sold about 20 copies. I imagine my next one will sell a little more. Same goes for the one after that. Most people want to be wildly successful on the first try. But this almost never happens. We are not able to produce great work without first producing a lot of crap. In the words of renowned radio host Ira Glass:. It will probably do better than his first book did. Same goes for his 3rd and 4th books. These individuals became great alone, in practice, every day, for years.
Over, and over, and over. Get over it, publish it, and try again. Your second draft will be better.
I used to juggle being an entrepreneur on the side while working full-time. How you do one thing is how you do everything. When one area of your life is suffering, all the other parts suffer. Conversely, when you develop one part of your life, all the other parts benefit too. Are laziness, irresponsibility, and avoidance normal parts of your day?
If they are, they need to be changed. The whole cannot become healthy if there are still toxic areas that remain unaddressed. Like a broken ankle or a dislocated shoulder, the entire body will suffer if even one part remains broken. The price for being extraordinary is a high one. It means severing ties with toxic individuals. Paying the price of success means changing these behaviors. The choice to become extraordinary is not unlike the addict who knows he has to quit to survive; do you keep doing the same things, or are you willing to change everything to transform?
For many people, the answer is no. Then you need to start paying the price. When you have a choice between the easy and comfortable path or the difficult and challenging path, do you pay the price? You can have anything you want. But this success requires a heavy price. The thing about becoming truly successful is that most people never do it. They may try, or claim they want to, but in reality, it never happens.
This reality becomes all the more keen for the few individuals who actually choose to become truly successful and extraordinary.
Only those who have reached the top of the mountain know how few tracks are up there. If you want to be truly successful, you need to understand this road will probably be very lonely, for a time. Even the most well-intentioned people around you may begin to disparage and discourage you from leaving the safety of the herd.
Family, friends, and loved ones all may not understand your choice to go on a new path. In some cases, they may even become resentful and hurtful. In order to prevent the reality that you achieved your goals while they did not, they strive to keep you in the herd, or ostracize you when you leave. When my wife and I were still living in San Diego, I was extremely busy. I had written an eBook, started a podcast, gotten a craft beer certification, and read 30 books, all while in full-time grad school and full-time work.
When we moved to South Korea, our lives became extremely simple. One of the most important factors about becoming successful is self-belief.
You must constantly be willing to become a small fish in a big pond again. In the words of renowned radio host Ira Glass:. Extraordinary means investing your money in assets, not liabilities. We were not meant to stagnate or remain in comfort for long. Those with the attitude that having money means they can buy more "things" to surround themselves with in order to feel superior to others will never be successful in their life. Those who live from paycheck to paycheck are also those that fill their lives with liabilities - car and house payments, credit cards, and other materialistic things that cost them money. This article at first i did not want to read it but I'm glad i did because it changed my way of thinking from Vision to Action and explained why a lot of my visions have been delayed.
In other words, your level of how successful you will be is generally accurate. This sentiment has been echoed throughout history. Do you believe you can win?
Can you envision yourself with your goals completed? What you focus on, expands. This is why most critical, judgmental, and negative people invariably have negative, toxic lives. Winners become winners by acting like one. It may sound silly, but this is a powerful exercise for your mind.
Robert Kiyosaki, author of the acclaimed finance book Rich Dad Poor Dad , recounted a time when he had lost a large amount of money, leaving he and his wife broke. Even though he had literally lost all his money, he still acted like a rich man. Then they act accordingly. But mastering success requires you to become a more open-minded and humble learner than you ever have been before.
You must learn from the experts. You must recognize reaching new heights requires an entirely different you. This is good news. We were not meant to stagnate or remain in comfort for long. As anyone who has chosen comfort over growth for too long knows, that very comfort sours and becomes a prison of fear, shame, and isolation. The real, fulfilling life is waiting for you on the battlefield. But the rules are simple. If you want to become extraordinary and become 10x more effective than you were before, check out my checklist. Click here to get the checklist now!
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