Young kids learn a lot about how to act by watching their parents. The younger they are, the more cues they take from you. Before you lash out or blow your top in front of your child, think about this: Is that how you want your child to behave when angry?
Be aware that you're constantly being watched by your kids. Studies have shown that children who hit usually have a role model for aggression at home. Model the traits you wish to see in your kids: Do things for other people without expecting a reward. Express thanks and offer compliments.
Above all, treat your kids the way you expect other people to treat you. You can't expect kids to do everything simply because you, as a parent, "say so. If we don't take time to explain, kids will begin to wonder about our values and motives and whether they have any basis. Parents who reason with their kids allow them to understand and learn in a nonjudgmental way. Make your expectations clear. If there is a problem, describe it, express your feelings, and invite your child to work on a solution with you.
Be sure to include consequences. Make suggestions and offer choices. Be open to your child's suggestions as well. Kids who participate in decisions are more motivated to carry them out. If you often feel "let down" by your child's behavior, perhaps you have unrealistic expectations. Parents who think in "shoulds" for example, "My kid should be potty-trained by now" might find it helpful to read up on the matter or to talk to other parents or child development specialists.
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Kids' environments have an effect on their behavior, so you might be able to change that behavior by changing the environment. If you find yourself constantly saying "no" to your 2-year-old, look for ways to alter your surroundings so that fewer things are off-limits. This will cause less frustration for both of you. As your child changes, you'll gradually have to change your parenting style. Chances are, what works with your child now won't work as well in a year or two.
Teens tend to look less to their parents and more to their peers for role models. But continue to provide guidance, encouragement, and appropriate discipline while allowing your teen to earn more independence. And seize every available moment to make a connection! As a parent, you're responsible for correcting and guiding your kids. But how you express your corrective guidance makes all the difference in how a child receives it. When you have to confront your child, avoid blaming, criticizing, or fault-finding, which undermine self-esteem and can lead to resentment.
Instead, strive to nurture and encourage, even when disciplining your kids. Make sure they know that although you want and expect better next time, your love is there no matter what. Face it — you are an imperfect parent. You have strengths and weaknesses as a family leader.
Recognize your abilities — "I am loving and dedicated. You don't have to have all the answers — be forgiving of yourself. And try to make parenting a manageable job. Focus on the areas that need the most attention rather than trying to address everything all at once. Admit it when you're burned out.
Take time out from parenting to do things that will make you happy as a person or as a couple. Aiming to make people aware of the way gender is constructed and constantly reinforced, this diary chronicles the differences two parents noticed while raising their son and daughter. Adapted from tweets and blogs the couple kept throughout parenthood, this collection shows how culture, family and even the authors themselves are part of the 'gender police' that can influence a child's identity, and offers ideas for how we can work together to challenge the gender stereotypes that are ingrained in our society.
The Early Years is the first book for parents of children ages 3—7 that analyzes popular parenting approaches in light of fifty years of parenting research and current evidence-based treatment models. Offering clear, step-by-step descriptions of proven and effective techniques, this book guides parents as they help their children build competencies while coping with some of the most common and painful problems of the early years, including:. Through vivid family vignettes, Kastner illustrates the common traps and travails of parenting young kids, showing us what has been proven to work and what certainly has not , with an emphasis on positive parenting and wise-minded decision making.
This accessible, insightful, and ultimately enjoyable book offers tremendous support, powerful skills, and plentiful encouragement for anyone who is parenting a child through the early years. Holding Tight, Letting Go: Raising Healthy Kids in Anxious Times. When to hold on; when to let go — a constant dilemma of parenthood. This timely book examines the balance between these powerful dynamics. How parents can instill confidence and security in children and how professionals can recognize and respond when this process goes awry.
Holding too long and too tight?
Letting go too soon and too easily? Includes down-to-earth descriptions of family systems and identity development and guidance on remaining an emotional anchor in children's lives as they launch toward independence. When Ben Hewitt and his wife bought a sprawling acreage of field and forest in northern Vermont, the landscape easily allowed them to envision the self-sustaining family farm they were eager to start. But over the years, the land became so much more than a building site; it became the birthplace of their two sons, the main source of family income and food, and ultimately, both classroom and home for their children.
Having opted out of formal education, Hewitt's sons learn through self-directed play, exploration, and experimentation on their farm, in the woods, and reluctantly indoors. This approach has allowed the boys to develop confidence, resourcefulness, and creativity. They learn, they play, they read, they test boundaries, they challenge themselves, they fail, they recover. And these freedoms allow their innate personalities to flourish, further fueling growth and exploration.
Living in tune with the natural world teaches us to reclaim our passion, curiosity, and connectivity. Hewitt shows us how small, mindful decisions about day-to-day life can lead to greater awareness of the world in your backyard and beyond.
These essays on nature, parenting, and education show us that big change can come from making small changes in how you live on the land, while building a life you love. How to Influence Your Kids for Good: Unlock the Best in Your Children and Yourself. The character education movement, implemented by educators around the world, is an incredibly successful and growing phenomenon. When important character attributes like honesty, integrity, and fairness are modelled and taught, kids develop an inner compass that continues to guide them in a positive direction.
Helping parents with their crucial participation at home has been the missing link until now. How to Raise Kind Kids: This vital question is taking on a new urgency as our culture grows ever more abrasive and divided. We all want our kids to be kind. But that is not the same as knowing what to do when you catch your son being unkind. A world-renowned developmental psychologist, Dr.
Thomas Lickona has led the character education movement in schools for forty years. Now he shares with parents the vital tools they need to bring peace and foster cooperation at home. It needs a supporting cast of other essential virtues — like courage, self-control, respect, and gratitude. With concrete examples drawn from the many families Dr. Lickona has worked with over the years and clear tips you can act on tonight, How to Raise Kind Kids will help you give and get respect, hold family meetings to tackle persistent problems, discipline in a way that builds character, and improve the dynamic of your relationship with your children while putting them on the path to a happier and more fulfilling life.
I Wish You More. Some books are about a single wish. Some books are about three wishes. The infallible team of Amy Krouse Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld have combined their extraordinary talents to create this exuberant book of endless good wishes. Wishes for curiosity and wonder, for friendship and strength, laughter and peace.
Whether celebrating life's joyous milestones, sharing words of encouragement, or observing the wonder of everyday moments, this sweet and uplifting book is perfect for wishers of every age. Drawing on her own experiences as the mother of two small children, as well as on the work of child psychologists, pediatricians, educators and so on, in this book Shumaker gets to the heart of the matter on a host of important questions. This book focuses on the toddler and preschool years—an important time for laying the foundation for competent and compassionate older kids and then adults.
Here are a few of the rules:. Shumaker also offers broader guidance on how parents can control their own fears and move from an overscheduled life to one of more free play. This book helps parents help their kids develop important life skills in an age-appropriate way. Sometimes being a good parent means breaking all the rules. Joy Fixes for Weary Parents: Modern parenting presents fresh challenges, including unrelenting time pressures, lack of support systems, and work demands, that often leave parents drained and worn-out.
Erin Leyba, the mother of three young children, has been counseling parents on these issues for almost twenty years. She has developed techniques that help parents not only cope but also feel joy — in their parenting and in their relationships with their partners. Leyba draws from the latest research about child development, attachment, successful marriages, and mindfulness to create effective, doable solutions for balancing, simplifying, and communicating.
She presents powerful tools that parents can use right away to de-stress, stay energized, and create more warmth and passion with loved ones. Whether new, veteran, overwhelmed, exhausted, or just interested in doing better than they are, parents will find proven help here. Author Faith Collins gives readers a blueprint to create a positive, mutually responsive relationship:.
Research-based and highly readable, this book will change the way you approach creating a life with toddlers and preschoolers. There can be no more necessary book for our times. Rich in advice and anecdotes, Barbara Coloroso offers no less than an ethical vision, one rooted in deep caring, by which we and succeeding generations may not only live, but thrive.
Kids Are Worth It: Barbara Coloroso delivers a powerful message that good parenting begins by treating kids with dignity and respect, giving them a sense of power in their own lives and offering them opportunities to make decisions, take responsibility for their actions and to learn from their mistakes. Rejecting the quick-fix solutions of punishment and rewards, Coloroso shows how to use the very stuff of family life to help you guide your children to become self-disciplined, responsible, resilient and compassionate human beings.
Grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience, this pioneering book redefines discipline and outlines the five essential elements necessary for children to thrive: In this book, you will also discover parenting practices such as setting limits with love, working with difficult emotions, and forgiveness and compassion meditations that place discipline within a context of mindfulness. This relationship-centered approach will restore your confidence as a parent and support your children in developing emotional intelligence, self-discipline, and resilience-qualities they need for living an authentic and meaningful life.
Strategies to Encourage Growth Mindsets in Kids. All parents want their children to be successful in school, sports, and extracurricular activities. But it's not just about giving your kids praise or setting them on the right direction. Research shows that success is often dependent on mindset. Hard work, perseverance, and effort are all hallmarks of a growth mindset. That's where Mindsets for Parents comes in. Designed to provide parents with a roadmap for developing a growth mindset home environment, this book's conversational style and real-world examples make the popular mindsets topic approachable and engaging.
It includes tools for informally assessing the mindsets of both parent and child, easy-to-understand brain research, and suggested strategies and resources for use with children of any age. This book gives parents and guardians powerful knowledge and methods to help themselves and their children learn to embrace life's challenges with a growth mindset and an eye toward increasing their effort and success! Mothering with Courage provides mothers a detailed guidebook for their journey as a mother, complete with the latest understanding and tips for healthy parenting and motherhood.
Practical, educational, and inspirational, the book provides self-reflective questions and guided journaling exercises for mothers, specifically related to aspects of their lives and mothering. Mothering with Courage engages mothers in an interactive experience that will help map their own journey of motherhood, consciously creating it as they move through the book gaining insight and making personal choices.
The text and exercises also guide mothers to mindfully choose the legacy of values and attitudes that they want to pass to their children. As a result, they will be given the opportunity to become a calm and connected mother The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging Conventional Wisdom about Children and Parenting. Somehow, a set of deeply conservative assumptions about children — what they're like and how they should be raised — have congealed into the conventional wisdom in our society.
Parents are accused of being both permissive and overprotective, unwilling to set limits and afraid to let their kids fail. Young people, meanwhile, are routinely described as entitled and narcissistic In The Myth Of The Spoiled Child , Alfie Kohn systematically debunks these beliefs — not only challenging erroneous factual claims but also exposing the troubling ideology that underlies them.
With the same lively, contrarian style that marked his influential books about rewards, competition, and education, Kohn relies on a vast collection of social science data, as well as on logic and humor, to challenge assertions that appear with numbing regularity in the popular press. These include claims that young people suffer from inflated self-esteem; that they receive trophies, praise, and 'As' too easily; and that they would benefit from more self-discipline and "grit.
Kohn's invitation to re-examine our assumptions is particularly timely, then; his book has the potential to change our culture's conversation about kids and the people who raise them. No Contest , which has been stirring up controversy since its publication in , stands as the definitive critique of competition. Drawing from hundreds of studies, Alfie Kohn eloquently argues that our struggle to defeat each other — at work, at school, at play, and at home — turns all of us into losers.
Nurturing Spirituality in Children. The greatest gifts that a child can receive are an opened mind, a caring heart, and ignited creativity. Children who develop a healthy balance of mind and spirit are better able to respond to life's challenges when given the tools to think and discover for themselves. Jenkins gives scores of age-appropriate activities that help children learn empathy, trust, forgiveness, growth, and inner peace.
Parenting From the Inside Out: Drawing on stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. Born out of a series of parents' workshops that combined Siegel's cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's decades of experience as a child-development specialist and parent educator, this book guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for loving and secure relationships with their children.
Discover what your child is capable of and learn new ways to help you manage stress and help your child manage frustration. Key messages in Parenting With Patience:. Our children can be our greatest teachers. Parenting expert Susan Stiffelman writes that the very behaviors that push our buttons — refusing to cooperate or ignoring our requests — can help us build awareness and shed old patterns, allowing us to raise our children with greater ease and enjoyment. Filled with practical advice, powerful exercises, and fascinating stories from her clinical work, Parenting with Presence teaches us how to become the parents we most want to be while raising confident, caring children.
Research reveals American kids today lag well behind the rest of the world in terms of academic achievement, happiness, and wellness. This book takes us from Finland, and Sweden to Germany, France, Japan, China, Italy, and more, and examines how parents successfully foster resilience, creativity, independence and academic excellence in their children. Revealing the surprising ways in which culture shapes our parenting, Gross-Loh also offers objective, research-based insight into what strategies are best for children and why.
Parenting Without God is for parents who lack belief in a god and who are seeking guidance on raising freethinkers in a Christian-dominated nation. It will help parents give their children the tools to stand up to attempts at religious proselytization, whether by teachers, coaches, friends, or even other family members. It also offers advice on teaching children to question what others tell them and to reach their own conclusions based on evidence and reason.
Above all, the book argues that parents should lead by example — both by speaking candidly about the importance of secularism and by living an openly secular life. All parenting is about experimenting whether you know it or not. It begins on the day our kids start to teethe, as we do backflips to distract them from the pain, and continues all the way through their teenage years, when we bribe them with video games to extract a few minutes of math.
Emboldened by his keen understanding of cutting-edge research, Dalton Conley makes a series of unorthodox parenting moves. Just to name a few: He gives his children weird names to teach them impulse control because evidence shows that kids with unusual names learn not to react when their peers tease them. Conley tries a placebo on his son when the school wants to medicate him for ADHD, because studies prove the placebo effects are almost as big as those of the actual drugs.
He teaches you everything you need to know about the latest literature on parenting — with lessons that go down easy. Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, and fearless writer. Backing up her lively writing and arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations like Alfie Kohn, Thomas Gordon, and R.
Resources for Infant Educarers , Ms. Lehr offers a conscious approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual. With the increasing pressure to excel at parenting, work, and personal relationships, it's easy to feel stressed and dissatisfied. This targeted Positive Discipline guide gives parents the tools to parent effectively without sacrificing their well-being or giving up on their life goals.
Instead of creating unachievable expectations, you will instead learn to play to your strengths at work and at home. By helping you get to the bottom of the underlying causes of misbehaviour, busy parents will also be able to avoid pampering and keep permissive and punitive parenting at bay. Armed with communication strategies and tips for self-reflection, moms and dads! Positive Discipline Parenting Tools: Do you wish there was a way to raise well-behaved children without punishment?
Are you afraid the only alternative is being overly indulgent? The tenets of Positive Discipline consistently foster mutual respect so that any child — from a three-year-old toddler to a rebellious teenager — can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline without losing his or her dignity. With training tools and personal examples from the authors, you will learn:. Popular parenting blogger Rebecca Eanes believes that parenting advice should be about more than just getting kids to behave.
Struggling to maintain a meaningful connection with her two little ones and frustrated by the lack of emotionally aware books for parents, she began to share her own insights with readers online. Her following has grown into a thriving community — hundreds of thousands strong. In this eagerly anticipated guide, Eanes shares her hard-won wisdom for overcoming limiting thought patterns and recognizing emotional triggers, as well as advice for connecting with kids at each stage, from infancy to adolescence.
This heartfelt, insightful advice comes not from an "expert," but from a learning, evolving parent. Filled with practical, solution-oriented advice, this is an empowering guide for any parent who longs to end the yelling, power struggles, and downward spiral of acting out, punishment, resentment, and shame — and instead foster an emotional connection that helps kids learn self-discipline, feel confident, and create lasting, loving bonds.
The Positive Parenting Workbook: This inspiring and inviting guide walks readers through the process of charting a new path, toward greater emotional awareness, clear communication, and even joyful moments in parenting. Filled with encouraging prompts and plenty of room to record your progress, this is a much-needed addition to the positive parenting shelf — and a companion to some of the most popular parenting guides on the market. The Present Parent Handbook: If you can recognize that your child needs to be witnessed, held, and loved by you, he or she will have a chance to thrive.
With all the distractions of work, technology, and life in general, The Present Parent Handbook invites parents to be mentally and emotionally available to their children. In the present, there is the opportunity to show up, pay attention, and become the parent you want to be. Positive emotional health in a child's earliest years can be a critical factor in their future development. Offering practical suggestions for games, activities and exercises designed to promote emotional wellbeing in young children, this essential guide showcases a wide range of approaches such as mindfulness and meditation, Forest School and Reggio Emilia to provide a hands-on reference for teachers and parents.
Drawing on over 25 years' experience as an early years professional, the author explores topics including playfulness, stillness, sensory play, creativity and staff wellbeing. Each topic references current best practices and international examples, and also includes a comprehensive list of further resources and activities. Providing an informative introduction to both theory and practice, this book demonstrates easy-to-implement ideas for any professional or parent engaging with young children.
Healthy parenting leads to healthy children. An inspiring and eminently practical book, full of guidance, tips, exercises, and the cumulative understanding of three wise and innovative authors. Written in a friendly "we've been there" style. Figuring out how to raise happy, healthy, and successful kids can be overwhelming. Parents find themselves wading through tons of conflicting advice. An experienced psychiatrist and founder of the Center for Reflective Communities, Regina Pally serves up something totally different in her book.
She argues that the key to successful parenting is learning to slow down, reflect, and recognize that there is no one key to doing it right. This engaging book shows how reflective parenting can help you understand your children, manage their behaviour and build your relationship and connection with them. It is filled with practical advice showing how recent developments in mentalization, attachment and neuroscience have transformed our understanding of the parent-child relationship and can bring meaningful change to your own family relationships.
Using everyday examples, the authors provide you with practical strategies to develop a more reflective style of parenting and how to use this approach in everyday interactions to help your child achieve their full potential in their development; cognitively, emotionally and behaviourally.
It is also an essential resource for clinicians working with children, young people and families to support them in managing the dynamics of the child-parent relationship. This is a book that every parent needs to read. Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: Do more than simply correct bad behavior — finally unlock your parenting potential. Use this handbook to move beyond typical discipline techniques and begin creating an environment based on mutual respect, emotional safety, and positive, open communication.
The Rhythm of Family: Discovering a Sense of Wonder through the Seasons. Many of us with busy families yearn for a slower and simpler life with our kids. The Rhythm of Family is a guide to living such a life for any family. Following the course of a year through the passing of the seasons, this book explores the ways we can create deep family connections and meaningful memories through living in tune with the cycles of nature. From stomping around in mud boots in the spring to gathering around the woodstove in winter, our activities naturally change from season to season—from the rhythms of the seasons comes the rhythms in our homes, our hearts, our families, and our every day.
Paying attention to these changes slows us down, inspires new types of creative play and exploration, instills a sense of family togetherness, and deepens an awareness of nature and self that can make our lives, days, family, and earth grow stronger. The Rhythm of Family explores what we learn and can gain as parents and families by encouraging and experiencing creativity and nature exploration with our children, the seasons can provide us with a rhythm that brings us close to the Earth and closer to our children. The Science of Parenting: Backed by the most up-to-date scientific research, The Science of Parenting, 2nd Edition provides evidence-based parenting advice about how you should care for your child, with practical strategies from birth to 12 years of age.
From separations and time apart to forms of discipline to the latest thinking on screen time, this guide traces the direct effect of different parenting practices on your child's brain. Summaries at the end of every chapter provide key takeaways and make action points simple and clear so you can begin to implement them immediately. The Science of Parenting shows what science can teach us about parenting — and the remarkable effects of love, nurture, and play on a child's development.
What Science Reveals about Parental Influence. Combining the expertise of its author — a celebrated expert in parent-infant mental health and mother of two — with the latest findings in gene-by-environment interactions, epigenetics, behavioural science, and attachment theory, Scientific Parenting describes how children's genes determine their sensitivity to good or bad parenting, how environmental cues can switch critical genes on or off, and how addictive tendencies and mental health problems can become hardwired into the human brain.