The class above her witnessed, her class witnessed, she was still yelling when the classes changed, the younger grade afraid to enter the room as the tirade continued. She made a statement. The teacher handed out a magazine. As soon as she saw the cover she knew it was a magazine she had read before, she remembered all of the contents and articles. A quiet inside voice informing her she read the magazine. My child has never raised her voice, never talked back, never misbehaved. There was NO conversation. My child three words and the teacher non stop diatribe.
Smiles and laughter are gone. An entire bus ride home from a movie she fell apart. She cried the entire way back and not a single one of the 5 adults on the bus cared. To care that little for a human being because you judged and slapped a label on them and now you can lie continue to lie and treat them like they are less than human.
We are really struggling and suffering. I went in knowing what I had to do to break up the collective mind set. It was 5 people. I got one letter done and was working on the rest. The principle called the police, filed a false claim of harassment and she had them buying her entire victim statement and lies before I even entered the building. I entered to a emotionally volatile angry hostile yelling sheriff. He bought her emotional manipulation, lies, and damsel in distress all the way before even asking me a single question.
He said if I spoke to anyone other than her the bully principle i would go to jail. My child is terrified I will go to jail and hesitates telling me about the manipulation and set ups the causal teacher continues to do. Calling her non responsive when there is no way to respond to someone who is out to get you and no matter what you say or do she will nail you and make it appear she is the problem. I miss my thriving happy child.
Suffering for two years now. Nobody is above her. All requests to speak with school board have been denied and they refuse to put me on the agenda. No where to go but down. Loosing faith in humanity one person at a time. What they have done to destroy her should be illegal and criminal. River of tears, and seeing my child loose piece after piece she is almost empty, drained and to exhausted to continue.
My daughter is 14 as well. When my child was in 2,3, and 4th they had a point system for reading. My daughter read the books. They had to take tests at a computer to earn the points. We do not push, shove, intimidate or manipulate others. There was never a computer for my daughter she stood in line never getting a turn.
If she did sit down at a computer a gaggle of girls started up this dramatic scene, shifting feet, hands on hips, exasperated sighs, groans, telling her she is hogging the computer, then another, let someone else have a turn, hurry up the gaggle of girls before my child could even answer a single question. She would get up just to make them stop and the teacher glare because she believed the gaggle of girls complaints.
The computer screen and time would prove my child never took a test. On point award day she sat on the bleachers and was not allowed to play with all the rest of the kids for two hours as they celebrated the points. She lost interest in reading. When we went to the next school a wonderful teacher encouraged her and she read 82 books that year and took all the tests and finally loved reading. This is the great school that is now HELL. It only takes one bad teacher, then she spreads her false projections on your kid, colludes with other teachers, labels are smacked on and she is now rude, liar, non compliant, non responsive, and has attitude.
Not a single below the line behavior, not a single warning, not a single fix it plan, well behaved child is now totally destabilized and paralyzed with fear and anxiety. They deny and will never accept responsibility for the damage THEY caused. I came across your article because I was researching the phenomena of teacher bullying. I documented incidents but they were only dismissed. The the administration turned it around to the teacher being the one who felt threatened. Basically, a parent is not allowed to advocate for an 8 year old child but the principal advocates for an adult teacher.
I initially kept my child home for a few weeks but ultimately pulled her out of the school. After the child has been pulled out, the principal has requested a medical certificate for her previous absences. I think they want to protect themselves from possible litigation. If they have a medical certificate on hand, they can say that her reason for absences was due to her own problems and not because she was being threatened. It is extremely disturbing how no one cares about children.
I really appreciate the soc journal there is a lot of interesting articles on here that make me think and have opened my eyes. It is good you stand up for your kids like that but you must get so frustrated and want to pull them out. The teachers probably look at you as being the crazy one.
The singled out kids are treated differently, I remember one boy when I was 6 or 7 maybe, who always got in trouble. When he swore, the teacher would disrupt the class, take him into another room and wash his mouth out with soap. Everyone looked at him to be a trouble maker and I know everyone had an opinion of him without really knowing him. I am pretty sure we probably laughed about it sometimes.
No one would have thought about the impact this kind of treatment would have had on him. Sometimes a teacher would require two students to go to every classroom in the school to get a card signed by all the teachers, I got to do this a lot because I was a favourite. This would have even made other kids feel bad, or jealous, or even have negative thoughts about me. This kind of activity should have been rotated around the whole class.
But then the children abuse each other. You might start smoking in the toilets, or one stupid things kids used to do at my primary school is get a wad of toilet paper, wet it and throw it up on the ceiling where it stuck. I got teased for being flat chested, and for having big eyes. I used to hate public speaking aswell, doing book reviews when you are about 10, having to stand in the middle of the class terrified me.
Then in high school I got teased for apparently having a big fore head. Then you have your cliques, the nerdy groups, the popular groups. None of that crap matters once you leave school, except the damage it causes to the individual in how they view themselves. Hi Kristy, that crap does matter when you leave school. It is what you have learned in school about hierarchy, exclusion, the formation of groups, differential rewarding i. Thank you and thank you for your commitment to society and these causes.
Only through learning our faults and shortcomings as human beings can humanity progress in a positive way. I am Ophelia…All this has been going on with my 8 yr old for the past 3 yrs.. I have been taping these people for the past four years…they will not be able to explain any of this in court…I thought I was crazy, I went online, only to find out after reading your article…that I am not.
My daughter was physically pushed down and has scratches on her back and a lump on her head, a teacher pushed her down.. What concerns us is the reasons your child acts like this in school, where the majority follow the rules. His behaviour is a result of your parenting and your parenting alone! From experience, both husband and wife being consistent in their approach to discipline works.
Work with the school, not against them. There are a few things you need to understand: The people whom the students are forced to interact during their time in the school environment, including teachers, the principal, and other adult staff members have a significant effect on the kids, and this cannot and should not be dismissed or downplayed as you seem to be doing here. Politicians, CEOs, and teachers are all good examples. Teachers under the current system have a lot of power over the students in their charge, and too often they benefit from operating under rules which declare that in virtually any conceivable instance when they have a conflict with a student, they are always right by default.
Students are pretty helpless before teachers, and they have a standardized curricula imposed upon them that many are not suitable to learn from. Because of this, it should be no surprise that the current type of school system is not conducive to many students. Why do the majority follow rules, you ask? Students who do not, or cannot, fit into this cookie cutter image are the ones who are most often singled out by the teachers for bullying, who demand unquestioning obedience to a very strict regiment rather than fostering true thinking skills.
In other words, running a school system like a military camp is going to have serious consequences on those who do not fit in. The majority of students whom you praise often become bullies, or simply go through life questioning nothing about the world around them. Work with the school and not against it, you advised this parent?
No, if the school has teachers who are bullies, then this needs to be opposed, not rationalized. I experienced it, Ms. The schools need to be democratized, and students and teachers need to work together in an environment of mutual respect, where the basic humanity and feelings of students are recognized as valid, and teachers do not underplay the effect they have on the kids they teach, as you do here.
Once schools become a place where learning is fun and interesting, and under a system of mutual respect rather than granting teachers the power and all too often the mindset of a tyrant, then we will see far less problems. Do not be in denial about how much of a problem teachers, including you, Ms.
Roberts, can be when they are operate from a position of power and unquestioned authority. A lot of teachers do not choose to be teachers for the love of children but for the benefits of being a teacher. There are a lot of good teachers but there are many who does not have the talent or the effort to reach some of the students the way they can benefit from. Kids need to feel that they are loved by their teachers , if they feel the opposite, they will behave differently in school.
Many kids, who behave well at home but not in school, feel the love of their family, but cannot find their place in the classroom. These comments only strengthen my resolve to quit teaching. I feel for those that see our school system is absolutely fucked, because it is. But, to blame teachers for being disciplinarians is ridiculous. I hear lots of criticism and no solutions. The internet is full of busy bodies who most likely have not taught school.
I could be a assistant manager at Chic-fil-A and make more money. My son has not been diagnosed but I feel has a learning difficulty, at present he was absent and I had to face welfare council. Before I had two home visits by coordinators. I have encountered anger in trying to help him work. But he says not. The school is blaming me as a single parent, yet now school is the only social contact apart from media he has.
This shows he is not happy at the school, and what is going on there is affecting him. Last night a teacher rang regarding his lack of work towards exams and his college application. She was quite irate and blaming. Iexplained he refuses to go to after class nor work at home. I told her I have never been so upset with the school as now, she went quiet. Later I spike with my son and we did some work. I joined in with the work. But he has a fear of work which stems from the school definetly. I got him with the help if the head of year back in school after 6 days away.
To be patronised and made to feel worthless. I am so upset to be treated such as a single parent and feel my son is a scapegoat for a now failing school. Awesome response Christofer Nigro! I agree that it takes a village to raise a child a village that teachers are a significant part of but I also agree that it can take just one person to ruin them. My son, 6, is being bullied by his teacher. I also feel as though she is bullying me! Our home life is normal and we very rarely have issues at home with my son. However, his teacher says that he cries when frustrated at school to the point that she has been having a behavior specialist observe him and report data back to her.
Teachers have a tough job, I agree. But not any more or less than parents in these situations. Fuck you and your public school rules. Your an Epic failure if you think our current public school system is the best we can do. I embarrass and challenge the school when ever i can. I stay within the guidelines of the law but if you fuck with my kid i will demoralize you in front of him. I will show him how much of an epic failure you are andvthat we must fight against you. Not only for the kids but for the handful of good teachers that go home burnt out everynight.
Public school ahould not be controlled at the federal level and we are stupid for allowing this. I understand your frustration and anger, but an eye for an eye just makes more people blind. When you do, they win because you are clearly a product of their System. I wish I could be able to say and do what you wrote. I had a meeting today for my daughter. She has suffered from terrible anxiety since the death of her dad at age 6. Terrible separation anxiety and school phobia. In her early grades she was carried forceably into school.
I was told by the experts this was the right thing to do. She would procede to huttle in the coat closet. I did take her out of school for a while. She wanted to try and return to school. We had a meeting today, her teacher had asked her to read out loud and she told the teacher she was feeling really anxious and thought she might start crying if she read. I stated I felt this was punishing her for expressing anxiety. I was jumped on immediately and told that was not a punishment. I felt like I was being gas lighted. I was told over and over that loosing points was not punitive.
I felt like I was in the twilight zone. Rachel Roberts did you even read the article??? Your attitude is the precise reason articles such as this even need to be written. I strongly suggest educating yourself regarding the effects of environment on behavior; manifestations of learning, psychological, medical, and emotional disorders; and the importance of empathy. Furthermore, to suggest parents adjust their beliefs and home environments to satisfy your need for control is asinine!
You do realize that teachers within the public school system are employed by tax-payers, right? As such, you have no business dictating the implementation of your counterproductive methods to your employers. I am appalled that a teaching certificate was ever issued to you in light of your sub-standard spelling and grammar skills. Please, for the sake of the children and the future of society, find yourself a different career.
Lastly, after receiving such negative feedback from other commenters, you should take some time to self-evaluate your feelings and consider the implication that similar feelings have for impressionable children. Did you ever consider children with disabilities such as emotional, ADHD, depression etc? I found out at the end of the year she was moving up a grade to 5th and wanted to show how all her students she so called taught received excellent grades.
Well if your child is put on medication such as Ritalin where I live they can not become a Police Officer, Fireman or anything to do with military etc. Of course if you feel your child should be evaluated and think they may have add or a delay please do so. Also, we are also dealing with the ill effects that you have written above. It is very close, if not the same, to what you have stated. In order to sue the school you would have to prove that your child was harmed.
There is a rapidly growing body of solid research that proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that forms of abuse cause serious long term damage to the human body. I am working on summary of this research here it is still a work in progress. If your family doctor is onside they may be able to write an affidavit for you associating physical or emotional distress with events at school, but you also need to document. It is going to be tought. AFAIK there are few legal precedents for taking teachers and schools to task, but I think it is only a matter of time. Damage proved, our not, the teachers and staff are committing abuse.
That is enough for an arrest, if our society cares about its actual laws and children. Expect that because any unevenness in academic ability is not understood, struggling with certain subjects demonstrates laziness rather than a need for assistance. The thing is, it worked. Then we turn to PE and sport. Even if you kept to the rules and were just suitably above mediocre academically to be left alone, athletic ability is something you have far less control over. The fact that I 20 years on, suddenly recall all of this after reading your article has really surprised me, I guess it had more impact that I thought.
It was all just normal everyday life to us at the time. Not that it was exceptional. There were no straps or canes, there was no to my current knowledge, and word would have traveled fast sexual abuse, and incidents of physical abuse were mostly delt with. Although a few cases of students being directly shouted at into their ears mid-class probably count and were never addressed. Inequality is the problem we come across at schools and it is something that is not adjusted with democratic values, ideals of free society, society of free individuals where children have the right to be free and sponetaneous as much as the grown-ups allow.
Fortunatelly, children always try to push the limits but , on the other hand the grown-ups must give their best to provide them opportunities to express themselves and their, somewhat juvenile ideas and needs. This hostile enviroment that is latent in schools manifets itself in some ways that are described in this post. But what I think is more important is to see whether the school and the education system achieves socialization even with these kinds of negative phenomena, that are indeed real manace and trouble for the young. School is not the perfect place to send our kids but the best we have in a sense that it provides the variety of actions, relationships, happennings and experiences that would otherwise stay unavalibale to the young.
It is a harsh world we live in and concerning this fact, schools are doing very well, in my opinion. Of course, emotional abuse and any kind of suffering that can be felt by the young should be dispelled out of schools. Maybe the problems lies in bureaucratization of scholls and industrial-like principle that seeks products and production process, in this case knowledge and people. People are just factionally and i some respect susceptive to these kinds of influences, and up to a point. Let us ask, what is the power the grow-ups have regarding the youngs, and what kind of division is that.
School as an institution has its dark sides, just as any other factor of socialization, it is all left on behavlf of individuals who behave in a proper manner and reasonably and the vice versa. High school in michigan, is like being in prison. Yes, that is absolutely correct. Robert, we all very sensitive beings, living in a very sensitive body, and that body while quite resilient , is nevertheless very easy to damage. Even ugly words undermine its integrity.
Hurt the body a little and it activates defense mechanisms to protect itself. Hurt it enough and the defense mechanisms are undermined, and real damage occurs. The biggest obstacle to healing is often simply trust. Take your typical abused child, who are they ever going to trust? I can understand why. Any authentic healer knows, the first thing you have to do is establish trust. It is called mean and it is about abuse. Sosteric, I am located in the New York metro area. I really like your way of thinking.
He has in fact started having some behavioral issues at school. I suspect this is because his teacher is always on his case, makes note of his behavior in front of his classmates and so on and so forth. I have yet to see one example of positive reinforcement no smiley faces on his homework, no encouraging notes home, nothing. I do get the sense that he feels singled out. He is a bit chatty and over-excited some of his peers have even called him weird. He is a highly intelligent child, but as is often the case with this population, also highly sensitive.
Please, if you yourself are in the NY area and are in practice please let me know. Otherwise I would be grateful if you could make a trusted recommendation for a colleague or two in the area that you think might be able to help. Are any of you teachers? Have any of you gone through teacher training in this country?
But then you get the few pupils who have become loud, aggressive, arrogant, disruptive, unpleasant and they can selfishly dominate the room by loud noise, swearing, physical violence so that no-one else pupil or teacher can do anything. I read through the comments — we should do something…………. Correct Its easy to ridicule teachers who are trying to educate students. All my time as a cover teacher is spent with five or six students who are probably wonderful people but who wont allow others the decency of a point of view in the classroom.
Every student has the same rights in the classroom and a teacher has a right to facilitate learning. Some students just need a ten mile run in the morning because they are made up that way I feel. They have loads of energy. Some students get no attention at home because their parents have no time so they use class to socialise and catch up with the gaps in their life. Some students are lazy and have never engaged from their early years because of their early home life. I am a teacher and find Dr.
There are things in school called rules that are designed to keep students safe. Students are made aware of these rules and if they choose not to follow the rules, there are consequences. Many students come to school fully aware of their ability to crap all over the teacher, knowing full well the teacher can do nothing in retaliation. Well, now she will work to make sure it does not appear on the board again.
Get off your moral high horse and wake up. Not every child who has negative experiences in school ends up in jail. Tanya, I think you need to reevaluate your approach to discussion. If this is your approach to disagreements in your classroom I can only say I pity the children in your charge. I also think you need to reevaluate your position on public shaming. When I was doing my undergraduate work, university professors were not allowed to post marks and names.
That is, university teachers would be sanctioned for putting up a public list of the names of their students, and associating those names with marks. It is the same now. When it comes to adults, teachers are not allowed to publically shame. Children are entirely dependent on the good will and beneficence of the adults in their life. Children are far less capable of defending themselves against such an obvious emotional assault than are adults. In fact, quite the contrary.
Because they are such easy targets, agents of socialization teachers, parents, etc. Anything else is just a case of strong adults harming defenseless children. Recent research is demonstrating quite conclusively that even mild forms of emotional abuse can have serious long term negative impact. You can see my entry on Toxic Socialization for a summary of this research http: I would only note that the research is fast piling up.
My own daughter had an experience with an incompetent speech pathologist when she was four and it totally undermined her self-esteem. The entire course of her K12 career was damaged by a single instance of not even public shaming. Anyway, contrary to your statement that I am the problem with kids today, I actually think teachers like you are the problem.
You arrogantly dismiss parental concern. Not only that, but you lack even a basic psychological awareness and you are empthy of empathy for the children in your charge. You are just the kind of emotional bully that so many parents write here about. You ridicule me, ridicule my daugther, and display a total lack of concern for the children you hurt. Given your position of authority over young children I assume you teach elementary , this lack of awareness is unacceptable and frankly offensive.
You have no right to assault children with your antiquated and violent ways. You have a responsibility to the children under your care, the parents, your fellow teachers, and society as a whole. It is not for you to spew unsubstantiated vituperous ad hominem attacks or unsubstantiated folk wisdom about what kids really need, it is for you to listen and learn.
It is in your best interests. Word to the wise. Nowadays teacher go to jail for sexually assaulting children. It is unfortunate, but whenever a teacher like you posts a diatribe like you did, I pray that the day comes soon. Every teacher I know went into the field of education with one goal: Teachers are certainly not in it for the money and appreciation because both are in short supply. I think it also needs to be noted that teaching children is one of the most demanding and under appreciated jobs in our country. Teachers are expected to be the parent, nurse, counselor, time keeper, and a multitude of other roles, each day.
Each year we get a fresh batch of new children and spend our time understanding their tics, analyzing their progress socially and academically , and trying to cultivate strong relationships with them and their families. This is a different day and age than when most of us were in school. I can remember being in elementary school and there being one or two students who habitually got into trouble for speaking out of turn or being mean to other students. The classroom today is a whole new world. Students have been exposed to media and conversation that we never heard as children.
They are learning things at a younger age and getting comfortable speaking inappropriate things to adults and kids alike and also being disrespectful to anybody they choose. They think that this is their right. Parents struggle to realize sometimes that we could absolutely handle it… if it was just that one child. We have classes of up to 30 children sometimes and often a quarter of those children have attention deficit disorder, another quarter are receiving special services from special education requiring the teacher to memorize steps to handle everything the child says or does , and a third quarter of those students have emotional issues that did not root from their treatment in the school.
I spent the year trying to draw this child out of her shell. It was exhausting, but I was glad to do it because at my core as an educator I want to help children. My partner teacher, while not quite as sympathetic, was certainly never abusive towards this child. She never raised her voice at her, never called attention to her in a negative way, and was often seen speaking positively to her. She claimed that my partner teacher was being disrespectful to her daughter and always bragged about how she had put a recorder on her daughter and had evidence.
Of course, she could never furnish this evidence. She ultimately pulled her out of school the child was crying when she did this and threatened to home school. The principal finally moved her to a new class. I feel as though the world is now full of parents who believe that educators are incompetent. They have no respect for teachers, therefore leading their children to believe the same.
Most adults would not take the kind of emotional destruction that teachers are subjected to without fighting back. You say that you are not painting all teachers with the same brush, yet you fail to mention the impact a great teacher has on a child. Where would any of us be without educators? I would say that this also makes you an emotional bully.
Shame on you for praying that the day comes soon where teachers like her will be imprisoned! Human beings are flawed by nature. Teachers are human and therefore will make mistakes. All I can do is try my hardest to be a positive, empowering influence to kids and apologize when I know I am in the wrong.
I think we should spend our time teaching children that the world has negativity in it and showing them how to overcome this negativity and adversity. If we shield them and coddle them through every obstacle they will never grow into successful adults. I am strong because I persevered through adversity as a child, a teenager, and now as an adult. Should teachers publicly shame students? No, of course not. I doubt any teacher will say that is their goal. Should teachers not offer children any criticism or negative impact in their school careers to save their feelings?
These are necessary steps for advancement. Failure is a part of success. Negativity is a part of positivity. I think I need to clarify that I do not believe it is OK for any teacher to ever D grade, reject, publicly shame, or abuse a child in any way, shape, or form. However we cannot dismiss the fact that there are indeed children who do come to school and abuse the teachers.
I think that teaching is a very challenging job and I also think that there is more put on the teachers because of lack of parenting. It sounds as if you do a lot of parenting to your own children because you sound very involved. I am sorry if you think that I was demeaning to you or to your daughter. But it is this kind of thinking that parents to do that put teachers in a very difficult position. I am sorry and always shocked when I see a teacher miss treating a child on the news. I think I also need to clarify that I had a very bad experience when I was a teacher.
While teachers are always in the spotlight for abusing children, I had children in my class who are extremely abusive towards me. So I think that my comment was definitely directed toward my negative comment. Prior to this bad experience I was always a very favorite teacher, I was very warm and caring, but the population that I happens to be working with that year did not preach appreciate my approach and it turned out to be a very abusive situation towards me.
That said I will not be checking into comments anymore on this article because I find you are very one sided and choose not to see anything but what your own experiences have taught you. I appreciate that you are so passionate and your line of work but I like to look at all sides of the coin and of the issue. So, how about this? When a child is disrupting the learning of others and is demonstrating that they are not in the classroom to learn, they leave? Only the children that are there to learn get to stay and learn.
This is the largest piece of hug a tree, head in the sand, bullshit, I have ever read. You have never taught. Give her another trophy for last, tell her shes a winner too and watch as her friends go to four year universities as she stays behind to make my coffee as i retire at the local granola coffee shop that has organic beans. Just another parent who thinks they can solve it all with a phone call and being upset at the teacher.
Fuck you and everything you stand for. You are a disgrace and quite frankly you are a fraud. Just another media monger. Otherwise home school them, or quit your bitching. I also keep a relatively up to date list of numerous studies that demonstrate a link between all forms of violence emotional, psychological, physical and various forms of physical and mental illness here. Its interesting because its not just psychological illness. Various forms of physical illness have been linked to toxic childhood experiences. I would think even cancer will eventually be linked to toxic childhood experiences.
For example, violence has been linked to depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, PTSD, suicide, lower IQ, lower grade performance in school, dysfunctional personal relationships, brain damage, conduct disorder, antisocial behaviors, psychopathy, increased incidence of physical disease , and heart trouble. A lot of this research has only become possible in the last few years, with advance brain imaging and advanced diagnostic techniques.
Have a look at the evidence. Important thing to keep in mind, toxic socialization leads to physical, emotional, and mental disability. The evidence is there and growing more convincing every day. You are just an angry person with no evidence, who is afraid of the truth. And if you try to fire back at me, that will simply prove my point. This is a wonderful article, thank you Michael S. Tanya, Not all children are the same. Where some may not care of their name is on the board, others may be horrified. BUT, I am not talking about putting a kids name on the board, or even calling them down in the classroom.
A child should not be singled out and totally humiliated or embarrassed in front of all of his classmates, especially if he is already socially awkward. I have a year-old son who was isolated and was not taught anything in the classroom. He was isolated at lunch for not doing his classwork during the day. He had a learning disability that was caught after the damage was done. Thank God he has overcome that abuse to the most part and is a wonderful husband, father and hard worker. He still talks about the teachers and how they acted toward him.
By the way, his name was never put on the board because he caused now trouble in class. But they let him sit and do nothing without trying to help him and then penalized him for not getting his work done. I think I need to clarify that I do not believe in degrading, shaming, or miss treating children in anyway shape or form. I had some wonderful teachers that displayed none of the behaviors that this article highlights and had no problem controlling the class. But I got treated like a dog in school by teachers with your attitude and students as well.
I got singled out for ridiculous things. I was 6 years old. I honestly never bothered anyone. I was absolutely morally opposed to and disgusted by abuse and bullying from a very early age because I spent a great deal of time at home getting beaten and screamed at by one of my step-parents and their offspring. Being abused at school was just icing on the cake. I know that no one is perfect, but that is unacceptable. Besides, any other place of business would fire someone in a second for treating coworkers and customers the way some teachers treat their students.
If I were to run into any of those teachers tomorrow, I would not hesitate to tell them exactly how terrible they were at what they did for a living. It took years of therapy and retraining to repair the damage that was done to me and I still deal with social problems on a daily basis that stem from that. I think I need to clarify that I am not in favor of any teacher mistreating, degrading, or publicly shaming any child.
I am really sorry that you had a negative experience in school. I can assure you that I am not a teacher who ever mistreated children. But I did have children mistreat me. I would not say hello to some of the students I had in the past if I saw them now. Teacher abuse is a very real thing just as child abuse is a very real thing. So I am really sorry that you were mistreated but I was also mistreated as a teacher. I never said anything about it. And I never went to the administration. I left that job and this is what I bring with me just like you have baggage that you have brought with you from your experience in school.
Teachers — like all humans — do encounter people — adults, youths, children — who are difficult or nasty. Please try to realize that there is little trauma that can impact an adult with choices as much as a child constrained by age, law, and custom to endure first torment, then denial that such torment matters. I do a lot of teaching…but am an RN. We do not have a principal! Think, if you will, why some teachers are much more popular with all the students, whereas others are disrespected and feared even by the best of students. My daughter is a very good writer, and as a HS Freshman was accused in front of the entire class of plagiarism on an assignment.
If you would like to explain your charge- You may do so now or I am happy to give you until class tomorrow to review your reasons. They then had a class discussion about the issue. Although inexperienced, she was a smart and very effective teacher. I am a kindergarten teacher. It is rewarding and challenging. Sometimes I make mistakes. I step back, reflect on the day, and think about what I can do differently next time. I remind myself to always come from a place of love.
I am thrown off balance. I feel bad for the child. I work on my self control in stressful situations. I have taught young undergraduate students, and you can see the emotional peril on their faces when they start universities. At Wayne State University, a lot of time is taken up trying to make the student comfortable, with an initial university experience. Sosteric a Great professor could help me with number 3. As far as teacher training, everyone goes through it, when you step into that classroom for the first, second, third time.
Yes, like going to college and having to tow the liberal political line or risk not matriculating: And yes, there is a difference between winners and losers. I would never ask anybody step step on a piece of paper with the name of Christ written on it. School has no recourses. I have started a fund for asking for help concerning my childrens school district. Sure, isolation can be emotionally abusive, but only to a certain point. When I was in second grade, my teacher did the same thing, but nobody in my class felt humiliated about it. For one, no one really laughed at or pointed fingers at someone whose name was on the board, and even if they did, it was nothing to be ashamed about.
I had my name on the board at one point, but in no way did I feel embarrassed. Better yet, how dare you speak for all the children in your school in this fashion. How do you know what your classmates might have felt? Its just like hitting somebody else. It hurts, it should stop. In fact, quite the opposite. Emotional neglect and emotional abuse is far more damaging that physical abuse. The consequences linger on for decades. Fear of abuse is not an acceptable motivator and if you think it is, then as a therapist my questions go immediately to your family of origin and I wonder what sorts of emotional and physical abuse you have experience, and how it has been normalized in your life.
Its is simply not better to threaten people to perform. Hitting someone, hurting them, hitting them, calling them names, or publicly shamming them to get them to perform is abuse, abuse, abuse. You know, when I did my undergraduate degree two decades ago university professors could not put names on boards in this fashion. Marks used to be available on doors back before computers but names could never be put up. Nowadays when it comes to adults, its even enshrined in law. Because it is offensive, unnecessary, embarrassing, and an invasion of privacy.
Professors can get into real trouble for doing the sorts of things that you are suggesting as a matter of course. But call a rose a rose, and a bully a bully. Gregory, I am not as well educated as many of the people in this thread; I am still in community college. The education system treated us poorly, though we had no alternative to the situation. My teacher sent me home with a report card at the end of the years saying I would be held back for 2 Fs, even though all of my standardized testing was good. She pulled me behind her and marched into the classroom, yelling at my teacher. I was in 3rd grade, and my poor grades were due to the previously mentioned lack of attendance.
The next year I had no friends in my grade, due to being made to sit in for every recess I was at school for in the previous grade. I begun spending my recesses in the library reading books alone, as the other kids had begun to find taunting me fun. I had gum stuck in my hair, I was pushed, my things were stolen, and I was seen as a problem kid even though I never spoke out in class.
When a boy physically attacked me on the play yard, I kicked him in the ballsack, and his mom yard duty ran up, and threw me to the ground. Another yard duty rescued me, and asked me if I meant to kick him. A week of suspension, and the boy got nothing. His mom got fired though. Jump ahead to middle school. I have no idea how to socialize with other people, and I am scared of them.
At least my friends from my after school program were there They were in different elementary schools before. I am no longer quiet when a teacher tried to shame me about my work, though now I am not doing it by choice. I argue the point, I even ruined an English assignment on purpose by informing my teacher that The Giver is part of a series, and that the boy and the baby live at the end, and have a village where Jonas is Mayor.
I then ask how she could possibly not know that about her own assignement- did she assume we were all too illiterate to have possibly read the books? Anyway, now I am an active conflict.
In high school I find friends, join a nerdy club, etc. Life is getting better, but the bullying from other classmates gets worse, and I drop out of school and switch to independent study. Ironically, it seemed that the only problem for me with school was that everyone else was there.
I shoot up to a 4. My entire problem was the fear and social stigma that started with how my teachers and superiors treated me in elementary school. I no longer automatically respected my teachers, and basically distrusted everyone new. I kept the exact same friends I met at 5 at my after school program, and stayed sheltered in that friend group for my entire public school education.
It took me years to slowly work my way out of that garbage. I feel like I lost something important. Now I have to try hard to remember what is socially acceptable with new people, and I have to deal with panic attacks in crowds. Two were close, but I was found and had my stomach pumped, etc before I died. A lot of self harm, etc. I just want to say that bit of story to the guy who says I should have toughened up.
I made it without ever really fixing the problem. I take all the online classes I can, and I work from home. I have to take Ativan just to play at a local Magic the Gathering Tournament now. As a side note, again: My brother suffered from the same problems, even though he tested into the gifted program in elementary school. They kicked him out of the program for lack of attendance, and then he just gave up on everything when he finally got back to school in his 6th grade year.
He said it was too easy. He managed 5 Is and an F one year. He only got to move on to the next grade due to his end of year STAR tests scores. Kids attacked him and teased him as well. One time two boys intended to shove his head in the toilet, and he socked one in the solarplexis hard and made him kneel down, gasp, and throw up. Luckily, my dad understood that, and let my brother play video games the whole 2 week suspension. Anyway, He gave up. Now he works retail, to pay his rent, and basically lives on the internet. He just sits alone, every day.
Great use of his gifted mind. I know he has so much more potential than me, and they killed it in him. I have a son in a public school in a town of 3, people. I wish I had time to write down here everything that has happened to my child in the past 3 years. My child is a Jr in High school this year and 3 years ago when I noticed that he was the only player not to play one single play, game after game, and even after told he was going to start or going to play or they would make it up the next game becasue they forgot he was there.
They begged him to play baseball because he can play very well. It turns out he reluctently chose baseball and then sat on the bench all year. This went on for the first half of the season. Then the one time they asked if I was going he did start and played the entire game. Next week he was told agin he is starting, i wask asked if I was going so on and so on. He didn;t playe either game again. So I talked witht he coaches again, asking if he was ever disrespectful, dud anything wrong, no no no he is just inconsistent.
Oh so he is inconsistent and your son just makes mistakes ok. His son was also caught with pot in his locker and that was covered up, 3 weeks after the second party my son made a mistake and had a tobacco pouch in his mouth at the school gym at a non manditory weight class one hour prior to the first bell. A questionable suspendable offense but he was sent home in 2 minutes.
No consistent consequenses just nepotism. Parents are supposed to be notified if their children are caught drinking for good reason and intervention is supposed to be imposed. This crap goes on and on and this is just part of what is going on. I went to the coaches and talked politley with them, I went to the principal and spoke with him about fixing what is broken so I dont have to make his abuse and actions public.
I just requested it stops. A week alter another incident. If you parents are in boosters your kid plays. We have the smallest 11 man football team in the satte of CA, a toatal of 17 players…. Can anyone see the mental, moral, emotional and social abuse here? Abuse of power at its finest. My son also donated The day of the "build a wall! How to talk to kids about racism.
A school telecast that went up on YouTube included a joke of the day, which on one occasion was about Mexicans, the girls said. The school acknowledged that it investigated that incident and subsequently removed the video. Rose Castilla, Isabelle's mom, shared another incident that she said occurred in a school hallway as she passed a student.
I tapped him on the shoulder, and I said, 'Nobody gets to say that word. No, that is unacceptable. Don't say it again. Josie said she had reported incidents of racism in the past to counselors at the school but felt they were either ignored or dismissed as pranks. A school spokesman said that whenever there has been an incident where a student felt unwelcome, the school responded, investigated and addressed the situation. So this time, Josie took out her phone and recorded what she witnessed, sending the video to her mom via text. Alicia Ramon said she was shocked and concerned when she saw Josie's text.
She sent the video privately to a few middle school parents. Another parent -- not Alicia -- shared it on Facebook. Within hours, the video went viral and was viewed millions of times over the next few days. The backlash toward the students doing the chanting began almost instantly. Many of the responses posted on social media were angry, threatening and "quite frankly sickening," said Shawn Lewis-Lakin, superintendent of Royal Oak Schools. Hate speech and crimes post-election. The attention that generated violent comments to the social media post, condemnations of the entire school and community, threats against the school and community brought an unwelcome level of attention that was very disruptive.
Parents of children who were showcased in the video worried about their children's safety; parents of children who were not in the video were also fearful because outsiders were angry at the school community for the "build a wall! The school district superintendent made sure police were on campus to protect students and calm parents' fears. As for the children responsible, Lewis-Lakin said the school identified the students who did the chanting, notified their parents, talked with them and held them accountable.
He would not say what disciplinary action was taken against them, citing student privacy policies. There was also a growing feeling of some parents in the community that Josie had put the lives of students in danger by recording the video and that she should be held accountable. People were pointing the finger and saying she should be expelled and she should be prosecuted for endangering children," Rose Castilla said.
At school, Josie said, she became the focus of negative attention, instead of the students who did the chanting. People would see me in the hallways and turn around and walk the other way," she said. Calls to crisis and suicide prevention hotlines surge post-election.
Work with the school and not against it, you advised this parent? Imagine for a moment that you are in a group of twenty people. I miss my thriving happy child. Your an Epic failure if you think our current public school system is the best we can do. Day of the ceremony I was there in hat and gown feeling so conspicuous and sad. Word to the wise. But then what about the majority who benefit from stimulating and interesting environments.
Josie and her family also encountered a sentiment that she was making too much of the incident and that kids were just being kids. You can't infringe on someone else's rights in order to have your speech be heard. A week after the "build a wall" chant, another controversy rocked Royal Oak Middle School. This time, a noose was found in a boys' bathroom at the school.
Lewis-Lakin, the superintendent, called the incident "profoundly troubling as a parent and as a community member. The student who placed the noose was swiftly identified and expelled, and all students at the school were addressed on the Monday following the Friday incident, he said. For Josie and Isabelle, the noose incident only heightened their anxiety. I was afraid that they're going to hurt me or Isabelle," Josie said. The back-to-back incidents have sparked a movement of mothers in this community who, along with Alicia Ramon, want to use the pain to bring positive change.
Students of all races favor teacher diversity, and here's why. Members of the group, named Together for One Royal Oak, said they are working with the school district, encouraging a review of the curriculum, more diversity training, mentoring programs for teachers and students and diversity in district hiring practices. Added Carmen Wargel, a mom of two, "It's important that we make clear that this isn't who Royal Oak is. We are better than this. The school district is in the process of surveying all students in grades K about their school experiences, both good and bad, and consulting with local, state and national experts.
We're taking their ideas, and we're going to build a plan moving forward TooYoungToVote but not too young to critique campaign coverage. This is welcome news to Josie but, unfortunately, comes too late.
While Isabelle remains at Royal Oak Middle School, Josie felt so ostracized that she ultimately decided to withdraw and enroll in a private school. And this is a straight-A student who excels academically," Alicia Ramon said. I shouldn't have to pick her up crying. There is something wrong in that equation. During our visit to Royal Oak, Josie finished her first week of classes at her new school. Alicia Ramon already sees the difference.